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Oi vey, Mrs. Ducky :what:

 

Wedded bliss 'only lasts a year'

 

Married couples are happier than singletons, research suggests

There's bad news if you're a newly-wed - married bliss only lasts for about a year, research suggests. Although almost all couples see a honeymoon effect for around 12 months - the magic soon fades, a study of 15,000 people in Germany suggests.

The Journal of Socio-Economics study found that except for a mild recovery in years three to five - it was all downhill after the first year. But the Swiss study found that couples were generally happier than singletons. The University of Zurich study, "Does Marriage make people happy or do happy people get married?", said people who engaged in marriage were committed to a "mutually rewarding exchange".

 

'Romantic notion'

"Spouses expect some benefits from the partner's expressed love, gratitude and recognition as well as from security and material reward," said report author Dr Alois Stutzer. It also provides some "basic insurance against adverse life events", he said. But those who co-habit in accepting societies are also significantly happier than those who live alone, the researchers added. As the year of marriage approaches, people report higher levels of satisfaction on average, but afterwards satisfaction with life decreases. In the first year of marriage, the subjects reported average satisfaction rates of about 7.6, but this dropped to 7.4 out of 10 in the second year.

The downward trend continues to fall until years four and five when there is a bit of a revival of earlier happiness.

 

 

This working relationship can be the most amazing and successful but it will only happen if you get real about it. But the downward trend soon continues, rising only slightly in year seven. By year 10, average couples are slightly less happy than before they tied the knot. The researchers suggest happiness may decline after the first year because couples take the benefits of their union for granted. Others suggest it may be due to financial pressures or the constraints of raising children.

 

Christine Northam, senior counsellor with Relate, the UK's largest marriage and relationship counselling provider, said the first flush of happiness was probably to do with the intense sexual attraction couples feel for each other. With time this intense high is replaced by something more normal, she says. But she said the disappointment people sometimes feel was often prompted by romantic notions of marriage rather than viewing it as a working relationship.

 

Division of labour

 

"This working relationship can be the most amazing and successful thing, but it will only happen if you get real about it. "If you have been in a marriage for 30 or 40 years, you have already got real - you've grown up," she added. The Swiss study also found there were social factors which affected people's satisfaction levels. Those with large relative wage differences, benefit more than those with smaller wage differences, it found. It also found that couples where responsibilities for earning and looking after the children were split between the two were relatively happier.

 

"Potential, as well as actual division of labour seems to contribute to spouses' well-being, especially for women and where there is a young family to raise," the study published by Elsevier said.

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i am not surprised :p what i am surprised about now and then is that people expect it to be different. there is no thing like a magical happily ever after in real life, you have to work for it. (says one who's never been married, but in my book long-term relationships count :lol: )

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An underwater mountain with some of the richest diversity of marine life in the Caribbean has been found by scientists.
:cool:

 

 

look HERE ... if you scroll down you can click on " in pictures" to see how it looks like (under the last piccie)

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Awww, the little goby fish are so cute.

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wow, that is amazing, it is really good to know that not everything is going downhill, and that there are still places like that.

 

:joy: <- moi trying to pretend i am a fish :p

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A rare print taken by US photography pioneer Edward Steichen has set a world record for the highest price paid for a photograph auction.

 

The Pond-Moonlight - taken in New York in 1904 - was sold for $2.9m (£1.6m), more than doubling the previous record.

 

Go here for more.

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wow that`s a lot of money! :swoon: but the pic is lovely! :p

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:bigeyes: whoa!! that is a huge amount of dough. but yes, lovely photo.

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Guest Girl from Mars

Love the pic but hey, the price :what:

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the seaweed picture in the BBC site is so cool!

 

the pond picture is gorgeous. not sure i'd pay THAT much money for it though. :lol:

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It would depend on how much money I had, I guess. It IS a drop dead gorgeous pic, and also a huge piece of the history of photography. A very tempting combination & if I had the kind of money Donald Trump has . . .

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… then you would sponsor me, i hope :lol:

 

but i agree - if i had that kind of money, i would buy that kind of thing, rather than anything else, i guess.

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… then you would sponsor me, i hope :lol:

 

but i agree - if i had that kind of money, i would buy that kind of thing, rather than anything else, i guess.

We would be drinking :champ: at the newly renamed "Maike-a-Lago".

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Belgian spectators at the Turin Winter Olympics could be excused for thinking they had found new winter heroes as skiers in their home colours raced by.

 

:roll:

 

more HERE

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